Frequently Asked Questions
What will counseling be like?
Counseling can be a scary process for some and uncertainty is understandable. It can be difficult to open up to a stranger about some of the deep hurts that have brought you to counseling. Counseling often hurts a little before it gets better, which makes for a long process. So for those that haven’t seen a counselor before I advise to educate yourself on what type of therapist you would like to see. Would you be more comfortable with a male or female? What about payment options? How long do you plan on being in therapy? These are all questions that will be answered during our first session, often times called the consultation or initial intake. We will go over the contracts together that need to be signed and I will be available to answer any questions you may have.
What if I don’t connect with my therapist?
If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard a story about someone who had a therapist they didn’t connect with, I’d be rich! As much advanced knowledge and research as we have on counseling and therapy, it isn’t an exact science to matching you with someone you will trust. I often times give the advice to those seeking a counselor to try one out for about five sessions, and if you are having feelings that are uncomfortable about your treatment, talk about it. Sometimes counseling conflict can be nervousness on your end or just needing to clarify direction and counseling goals. Still uncomfortable? Ask your counselor for a referral, counselors are legally obligated to provide you with a list of trusted therapists. Every counselor is trained a little differently and prefers a different style of counseling. Finding the right counselor is like finding the perfect pair of jeans, there is a pair out there to suite anyone’s needs.
“The best way to spot a great therapist is when they make you think about things or in ways that you never have before. Therapy is not a fast or easy solution. However, if you stick with it, in the end you will feel personal growth that empowers you to control your life and enjoy positive, life-affirming relationships with the people you care most about” (Stop Stressing Now, http://www.stopstressingnow.com/2009/10/how-to-know-if-therapy-is-working/)
How do I know if therapy is working?
Like I mentioned before, it is common to feel a little unsure or nervous about direction at first. But after about three-five sessions it is normal to begin feeling hopeful and more aware of feelings, emotions, and behaviors. Throughout the counseling process I help clients gauge their growth by asking questions that help me know if they are on track to reaching their goals. It is imperative to assess motivations for coming to counseling which can be summed up with one question: What would you like your life to look like after counseling? If your life is looking more and more like this then something might be going right!
It is my personal mission to help you feel comfortable to tackle even the biggest problems in your life, while instilling hope and courage to change. To help assist you in finding a therapist that will help you work towards healing and lasting change read the following article that gives great insight into finding the right therapist for you: http://helpguide.org/mental/psychotherapy_therapist_counseling.htm
How will Christianity be integrated into my counseling sessions?
From the get go we discuss how you would like spirituality handled during counseling. Please know that you will be respected regardless of religious preferences or affiliations. Being human it is best for you to know that I do come from a Christian background, but will always keep in mind the importance of your health, comfort, and direction of therapy. If at all you are ever uncomfortable feel free to discuss this with me with your concerns.
What if I am currently being medicated for a mental health reason? What would therapy do for me? Many times a physician or psychiatrist will offer medication as a part of a solution for your healing. Please know that medication is used in a variety of circumstances and for a variety of reasons. Beginning a medication regimen especially for a specific diagnosis can sometimes leave those with questions about their diagnosis. It is best to come to therapy to learn more about what is going on with your body and learn some helpful tools to maintaining a balanced life. In certain situations a combination of medication and therapy can help someone anywhere from a short term to a long term solution. However, it is a popular belief that medication alone will not serve you well as a long term solution. It is instead best to address issues that are causing you and your loved ones distress. If you have been recently placed on a mental health medication and are concerned about your treatment/diagnosis/health feel free to ask and together we can discuss your options. It is my opinion that you will benefit from an integrative approach combining therapeutic approaches alongside medicinal ones.
How do I know if I need counseling?
Feeling lost, confused, or depressed? You are not alone, research shows that popularity of counseling among North Texas College students has spiked up to 27% in the last few years (UNT, 2004). Growing numbers in depression among adolescents and adults, divorce rates, and many other hardships prove to be challenging for most. My hope is that even surfing the web would be an indicator that something is going on in your life that has you questioning whether therapy would be right for you. The following is a list of common signs that coming to counseling might be appropriate in your life:
*Recently diagnosed with a mental illness
*Suffering through grief and loss of a loved one
*Experienced a traumatic event that has not been dealt with
*Been experiencing pain in your close relationships?
*Lost control of many aspects of your life in the form of an addiction or compulsion?
*Been told by loved ones that counseling would benefit you?
*Felt overwhelmed by the circumstances in your life?
*Confused about your purpose in life?
*Having problems functioning in the workplace, within relationships, or in everyday activities?
Feel free to take this helpful quiz that might assist in guiding your decision to attend counseling.
What is the cost of counseling/consultation services?
For consultation services Lindsey believes in providing quality care for the community. Please reach out to her about speaking engagements and trainings for your organization and she will hand tailor something that will work within your organization’s budget.
Counseling Services are $140 for a 50 minute session.
Please ask if your family is needing special financial accommodation please email Lindsey today for a quote. Please make Checks payable to BRIDGES OF HOPE. ALL Major credit cards are accepted.
What is Trust Based Relational Intervention, TBRI?
TBRI® is an attachment-based, trauma-informed intervention that is designed to meet the complex needs of vulnerable children. TBRI® uses Empowering Principles to address physical needs, Connecting Principles for attachment needs, and Correcting Principles to disarm fear-based behaviors. While the intervention is based on years of attachment, sensory processing, and neuroscience research, the heartbeat of TBRI® is connection.